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Monday Extras: “It’s My Sex Life… Right?”

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Every week, on Monday, we will have a blog for you with the sermon manuscript and resources for diving deeper into the sermon.

Sermon Recap

As he ended the series, Pastor Andrew left us with a question: are we going to leave this series filled with knowledge or walking in wisdom? Knowledge is an understanding with the mind, and wisdom is an understanding with the mind and an assent from the heart. Knowledge is seeing the route on a map; wisdom is traveling the road. Considering all that we’ve learned in this sermon series, we are left with one main point: Choosing to only practice sex and marriage in God’s design is wisdom.

In verses 8-9, which refer to the woman’s brothers, we are shown that they were concerned whether she would be a wall (i.e. chaste and living in propriety) or a door (i.e. living in sexual promiscuity). The take away from this section is that as we grow, we must be guided toward wisdom in sexuality. Our deepest problem is on the inside. We can make rules for ourselves, but unless the heart that desires sex outside of God’s design is fixed, there will be no lasting change—keeping the world out won’t matter if we don’t get the gospel in. Also, if it’s us that’s the problem, we need people watching our back—people that we have hold us accountable—because we are often blinded to our sin which other people can see clearly.

In verse 10, the woman declares that she has chosen the path of maturity; she has chosen to walk in sexual purity. And when her husband found her, he found peace because he didn’t have to worry about her running around on him. Purity equals peace.

In verse 14, the woman calls for her husband to come to her. This is the heart posture of every Christian as they await their own husband, Jesus, to come (Rev. 22:17, 20). Many of us don’t feel like we can ask for Jesus to come because we don’t want him to see us in our sin, but there is nothing in our past that is bigger than the cross. Jesus was the chaste and pure wall that we never were and yet was crucified like an impure door on our behalf that we might be walls in God’s sight. We have a spotless purity given to us in the gospel.

If we can trust God to forgive the sins of our past, present, and future, then we should also trust God by walking in wisdom with sex and marriage. Wisdom is knowledge in action. Let’s be the bride. Let’s repent, realize in the gospel we are whole, and commit our lives to him, afresh and anew.

Featured Resource

Sex in a Broken World: How Christ Redeems What Sin Distorts by Paul David Tripp

Tripp zeroes in on the real reason that sex is a problem for us: our hearts. If we had hearts of pure love for God, nothing about the brokenness of the world would lead us into sin. But since sin has corrupted us at our very core, the world tempts us to sin willingly. The answer is that we need to be cleansed and made new, we need a savior. Our Savior is Christ, and only through faith in him and the gift of the Holy Spirit can sex be restored to the good and God-glorifying thing it was created to be.

This book will be an excellent companion with this sermon series and will have you diving deep into your own heart. It will compel you, for the love of Christ, to start rooting out the deep-seated sin that still remains.

Further Resources

The Meaning of Marriage: Facing the Complexities of Commitment with the Wisdom of God by Timothy & Kathy Keller

The Meaning of Marriage has become a modern day classic and is truly a culmination of all the best bits of knowledge found in other biblical marriage books. “Modern culture would have you believe that everyone has a soul mate; that romance is the most important part of a successful marriage; that your spouse is there to help you realize your potential; that marriage does not mean forever, but merely for now; and that starting over after a divorce is the best solution to seemingly intractable marriage issues. But these modern-day assumptions are wrong. Timothy Keller, with insights from Kathy, his wife of thirty-seven years, shows marriage to be a glorious relationship that is also misunderstood and mysterious. The Meaning of Marriage offers instruction on how to have a successful marriage, and is essential reading for anyone who wants to know God and love more deeply in this life.” – from Amazon

Marriage and the Mystery of the Gospel by Ray Ortlund

This is a wonderful little book that unpacks all the bible has to say about marriage.

“Marriage reveals something of eternal significance. From the beginning, God designed marriage to convey a greater reality―the passionate, unfailing, redeeming love of God for sinners, the eternal romance between Christ and his bride. In this volume, Ray Ortlund traces marriage throughout Scripture―from the first marriage in the garden of Eden to the ultimate marriage in the book of Revelation―laying out a transcendent vision of marriage that dignifies our own imperfect unions as a display of the gospel. This book offers insight and hope to every married person today.”– from Amazon

-Alex Nolette (Equip Coordinator/Community Groups)